So I wrote the topic as if I got these pieces of advice in a very nice way. Far from it guys. I won’t deceive you, they hit me in a very deep place and the normal me would rebel. You know that feeling when you hear something and it stings you? Or maybe you are talking to someone and he says something that slaps. That’s the feeling right there.
This month, we are on a journey to fully crushing procrastination.
Hello there, happy new month. I’m glad you have journeyed with me for three months. Thank you.
Please don’t stop.
We are taking the bull by the horn and smashing our goals this month, no holding back. Do I have a witness? To make the most of the post, you will need to read to the end. If you ever find a need to close this blog post at any point, then you need it more. I love the third point since it has worked for me.
The importance of goal setting cannot be overemphasized. I know that I told you that you can do anything so far you set your mind to it but let me also tell you that you might not be able to do much if you don’t set goals. If you ever want to live the life of your dreams, goal setting is one of the most powerful ways you can achieve that. You thought I would just leave you with the thought of how you can do anything you set your mind to? No, my dear.
I know you have believed otherwise for the longest time but let me remind you that you can do it. The time has come for you to drop the narrative that some things are meant for some people. It’s a lie from the pit of hell (well hell sounds too deep but it passes the message). Success is not just for some people and they are not doing well because they were lucky to get a manual. Do I need to also remind you that they don’t have two heads?
If you want to succeed in life, you need to stop lying to yourself. Yes, I said it and I am typing this with so much passion in me. I mean, I am tired of seeing people console themselves with quotes when what they need is to hear or tell themselves the truth. Every passing day I see quotes like ‘you need to love me for who I am’. My dear, who are you? Do you even truly love yourself for who you are? Well, true that they could love you for who you are but what if who you are is a bad version of you?
Little habits that don’t seem like they matter are those that greatly matter.
First, let me say to you, I’ve missed you. I’m sure you thought I was going to sing Duduke, lmao. I know going MIA was not the nicest thing to do and I’m sorry. The reason why I didn’t publish last week was that first, my laptop acted up. Secondly, because I didn’t want to ruin the flow of the scheduled content. I received so many messages telling me how they’ve missed reading my blog posts and it warms my heart. Never will I take your love for granted. Thank you
“An attitude of gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” Oprah Winfrey
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie
I would usually think the coronavirus was not worth my thought because I often get too nervous at the thought of it but here I am, it is exactly 5:23 am as I type this. Much more than the virus itself, I found myself thinking about the reality this period has revealed to our faces. When the lockdown was pronounced due to the increasing numbers of COVID 19 patients in Nigeria, I honestly thought living would be hard and maybe we would not survive. But Look at us adapting and living life.
The question, what are you doing presently or what do you intend to do has driven people into believing that they have to have everything figured out per time. We are often overwhelmed by the idea of having it all planned and when it seems like we don’t have it figured out, we feel like failures. Well news flash, it’s okay not to have it all figured out right now. While we are busy trying so hard, our lives are moving so fast.
Are you doing things for the right reasons? This question is one that you should always ask yourself. I mean, you have to always check in with yourself to make sure you are still on track. With different thoughts flying around these days, it is very easy to get distracted. There are so many things you want to try your hands on because people are doing them. It first comes from a place of motivation. Oh if this person can do this, I should be able to do it also. Yea, highly motivated! Morale, very high!
For the longest time, I have struggled with these unhealthy habits. I would wake up some days and be fed up. I’ll promise myself to do better henceforth but in no time I’m back to my usual self. You know a thing becomes a habit if you repeat it over and over again right? It got tiring actually and one day I decided I was going to work on myself. Trust me it’s easier said than done. As humans, we fear change and that’s because it means that we must get uncomfortable. But then you must be willing to leave your comfort zone if you want things to be different.
Communication, and indeed effective communication has remained a major factor in building healthy relationships. It is an inherent human nature to desire being in relationships whether platonic or romantic. As a matter of fact, we can rarely live an optimum life without having valuable relationships with others. For me, careful consideration of the relationships we keep shows we ain’t taking effective communication seriously as we ought to.
I dealt with feelings of inadequacy. Growing up, I had a set standard of what ‘doing enough’ meant and I was constantly striving to meet up with the standard. I would worry so much over little things that didn’t meet the standard. I would cry and lose sleep because I felt I was lagging. I honestly thought every other person had it figured out except me. I would compare myself to my peers doing the same thing as me. Do you also feel the same way?
Do you know who you are and who you can ultimately be? Has anybody told you recently that you are amazing, strong and fearless? Well, I’m telling you now and I’m not kidding.
Many times we have imposed on ourselves limitations that restrict us from thinking positively of ourselves. We think so small of ourselves and conclude that it’s only a miracle that can get us to that place we want to be. We keep fighting thoughts in our heads, we keep struggling with psychological boundaries that we have set for ourselves.