I know you have believed otherwise for the longest time but let me remind you that you can do it. The time has come for you to drop the narrative that some things are meant for some people. It’s a lie from the pit of hell (well hell sounds too deep but it passes the message). Success is not just for some people and they are not doing well because they were lucky to get a manual. Do I need to also remind you that they don’t have two heads?
If you want to succeed in life, you need to stop lying to yourself. Yes, I said it and I am typing this with so much passion in me. I mean, I am tired of seeing people console themselves with quotes when what they need is to hear or tell themselves the truth. Every passing day I see quotes like ‘you need to love me for who I am’. My dear, who are you? Do you even truly love yourself for who you are? Well, true that they could love you for who you are but what if who you are is a bad version of you?
Little habits that don’t seem like they matter are those that greatly matter.
First, let me say to you, I’ve missed you. I’m sure you thought I was going to sing Duduke, lmao. I know going MIA was not the nicest thing to do and I’m sorry. The reason why I didn’t publish last week was that first, my laptop acted up, and secondly because I didn’t want to ruin the flow of the scheduled content. I received so many messages telling me how they’ve missed reading my blog posts and it warms my heart. Never will I take your love for granted. Thank you
“An attitude of gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” Oprah Winfrey
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie
I would usually think the coronavirus was not worth my thought because I often get too nervous at the thought of it but here I am, it is exactly 5:23 am as I type this. Much more than the virus itself, I found myself thinking about the reality this period has revealed to our faces. When the lockdown was pronounced due to the increasing numbers of COVID 19 patients in Nigeria, I honestly thought living would be hard and maybe we would not survive. But Look at us adapting and living life.
The question, what are you doing presently or what do you intend to do has driven people into believing that they have to have everything figured out per time. We are often overwhelmed by the idea of having it all planned and when it seems like we don’t have it figured out, we feel like failures. Well news flash, it’s okay not to have it all figured out right now. While we are busy trying so hard, our lives are moving so fast.
Are you doing things for the right reasons? This question is one that you should always ask yourself. I mean, you have to always check in with yourself to make sure you are still on track. With different thoughts flying around these days, it is very easy to get distracted. There are so many things you want to try your hands on because people are doing them. It first comes from a place of motivation. Oh if this person can do this, I should be able to do it also. Yea, highly motivated! Morale, very high!
For the longest time, I have struggled with these unhealthy habits. I would wake up some days and be fed up. I’ll promise myself to do better henceforth but in no time I’m back to my usual self. You know a thing becomes a habit if you repeat it over and over again right? It got tiring actually and one day I decided I was going to work on myself. Trust me it’s easier said than done. As humans, we fear change and that’s because it means that we must get uncomfortable. But then you must be willing to leave your comfort zone if you want things to be different.
Communication, and indeed effective communication has remained a major factor in building healthy relationships. It is an inherent human nature to desire being in relationships whether platonic or romantic. As a matter of fact, we can rarely live an optimum life without having valuable relationships with others. For me, careful consideration of the relationships we keep shows we ain’t taking effective communication seriously as we ought to.
I dealt with feelings of inadequacy. Growing up, I had a set standard of what ‘doing enough’ meant and I was constantly striving to meet up with the standard. I would worry so much over little things that didn’t meet the standard. I would cry and lose sleep because I felt I was lagging. I honestly thought every other person had it figured out except me. I would compare myself to my peers doing the same thing as me. Do you also feel the same way?
Do you know who you are and who you can ultimately be? Has anybody told you recently that you are amazing, strong and fearless? Well, I’m telling you now and I’m not kidding.
Many times we have imposed on ourselves limitations that restrict us from thinking positively of ourselves. We think so small of ourselves and conclude that it’s only a miracle that can get us to that place we want to be. We keep fighting thoughts in our heads, we keep struggling with psychological boundaries that we have set for ourselves.
I failed again! I’m not good enough! I can’t do this! Maybe this is not meant for me! Maybe I should not have done it in the first place!
Passionately pursuing your personal growth and development is one action you should never be ashamed of. In fact, this is the one thing that you owe yourself. It is a life long journey you must embrace and enjoy.
I’m glad you stopped by.
This post will be answering 20 questions I was asked by some of my friends. I’m sure nobody already knows the answers to these questions, so don’t feel like you know it all. Just relax and enjoy.
Let’s get right into it.
What is your name and what does it mean?
My name is Opeyemi and from the best of my knowledge, I’ll say Opeyemi means ‘I deserve to be thankful’…I hope I’m right though. So it is safe to say my parents were thankful to have me.
2. When is your birthday and How old are you?
I’m 25 years old and I was born on April 12, 1995. I put a 25th birthday post up already, you should read it here
3. What is your best childhood memory?
I have a lot of nice childhood memories actually (thanks to my parents). If I’m to pick my best, it will be times when my elder sister and I would wear matching outfits, really. There was this outfit at that time that had a dress, hat, and bag to match. How I love those times…
4. What’s your favorite color?
Until recently, it was black. Now I think I love purple too (hard to choose so I’ll pick both)
5. What’s something you’ve always wanted to try?
Skydiving!! The thought scares the living day out of me but I still want to try it.
6. What’s something you thought you’ll grow out of but haven’t?
Ermmm I’ll say how much I worry. I’m a work in progress though and I hope I get over it soon
7. What’s your best food?
Beans with plantain… I love that combo so much that I can eat it every day of the week and not get tired. If you’ll ever have to host me, you could serve me this. Lol
8. What are your hobbies?
I love reading, writing, and learning new things. Basically anything that’ll keep me active could become my hobby.
9. Favorite book?
Presently, I’ll say ‘You are a Badass at Making Money’ by Jen Sincero. I love reading books so it might change soon but till then, I’ll pick this. This book changed my mindset and yea, I’m making money already. Lol
10. What is your weirdest passion?
Talking!! I don’t get tired and I sometimes get scared.
11. What’s your ‘go to’ outfit?
Jeans, T-shirt and flats (sneakers maybe)… I love that it is simple, comfortable yet chic.
12. How many languages do you speak?
I speak just two. English and Yoruba, maybe I’ll learn German or French someday.
13. What is one thing that makes you lose interest in people immediately?
14. Where do you currently live?
I live in Ibadan, Oyo State, Nigeria.
15. Are you single or taken?
16. How many siblings do you have?
I have 4 siblings. 2 sisters and 2 brothers
17. What was your dream job as a kid?
Growing up, I wanted to become a medical doctor. Well everybody I knew that time wanted to become a medical doctor but look at us now. Lol
18. Which one thing do you wish people knew about you?
I wish they knew that beneath my ‘hard girl’ is a soft -hearted lady that worries for others so much.
19. Biggest struggle you overcame?
Punctuality… I can’t say I’m there yet, but I’ve improved.
20. When was the last time you cried?
I still cried this month of April, I had a lot running through my mind so I cried to feel better
If you read up to this point, you can be confident that you now know me better. Thanks for reading this post, I hope you enjoyed it. If there’s any other fun stuff you’ll love me to do, feel free to let me know.