One of the many self-development mistakes we all make is thinking that it is a one-time thing as against seeing it as a journey that never ends. Have you ever wondered why some people keep trying to improve their lives but never make headways? It’s not because they are not trying or not doing what needs to done. It is because they are making mistakes that most people often overlook but has the capacity to hinder them from reaching their greatest potential.
Just like you, I used to think self-development is a one-time thing. It seemed as though all we needed to figure out is what we want, where we want to be and how to get there, but sadly that is not all that there is to this. I will tell you this for free, self-development is a journey that lasts a lifetime! It never ends. So, if you feel you’ve arrived at your destination, you need this post way more than those who are still trying to figure things out. Why? Because you will get stuck. Wondering how I know this?
Just like that, it’s the end of the year already and I’ll be wrong to not write about the lessons 2021 taught me. I personally didn’t envisage the kind of year I had, to think I wanted it to end at some point and now I’m so shocked at how fast it ended. 2021 is the year so many things happened to me in a very short span. Before I could jack up from one, another had hit me, it was crazy. I could literally remember incidents like they were yesterday.
Time really does fly because I’m not sure I can explain how it is September already. It makes sense now what I found during one of my wanderings on Instagram. I found a quote that says time is all that we have and don’t have and I think I understand better. I could swear I had enough time to get things done since I was clear on what I wanted to do this year early enough. But here I am, caught between consoling myself with the ‘there’s still time’ mantra and beating myself up because I know I’ve wasted a lot of time doing nothing.
Putting my life bits into words has become difficult because I’ve been spending more time in my head. It is super comfortable to be up there, I mean, you don’t get to face anything at all. Not your fears, not the reality, not your regrets, neither do you have to face the truth since it’s blank up there. But I’ve spent too much time there that it got boring. So, I decided to revisit the beginning which would pass for the past, and what I saw scared me, in a good way though.
Have you ever sat down to think about the things you think about? Do you know that what you see is what you saw? Wait, don’t be confused yet. I heard the phrase what you see is what you saw in a movie, Tijuana Jackson: Purpose Over Prison. I immediately began to sing this popular TikTok song, I see, I saw, lol. I didn’t give much thought to the phrase until later that evening. The movie that looked boring from the beginning to my surprise, began to make sense to me.
I was on the bus traveling back to Lagos and I could not help but ask myself, are there ways to keep your hope alive? I was tired and frustrated, partly because the bus I took was unnecessarily noisy which reminded me of the fact that I should have boarded a car instead. Another reason is that people think I am rich but I do not even have the money they are talking about. I mean, I took a bus instead of a car because I was on a budget. Yes, there was or should I say there is hope, but it looks like everything is out to just kill the hope.
Limiting beliefs explains why you don’t have to be behind bars to be in prison. If I would describe the feeling I got when I heard the statement ‘you don’t have to be behind bars to be in prison’, I would just shout yeeeessshhhh because it felt like someone had slapped me. The statement got me thinking so hard and led me to find out that I had been a prisoner for quite a while. Hey fellow prisoner, I know I’m not alone so shout God forbid as loud as you can but that does not change the fact that we are together. It is what it is darling.
When we lack clarity, we are often confused and unnecessarily stressed. The clearer you are about your goals, the easier it is for you to be consistent with the plans you have to achieve your goal. You are able to set your priorities right and align everything that you do to fit these priorities. It is important that we start the year right hence, this blog post.
The events of these past days have left me feeling overwhelmed and I know I’m not alone in this. Just yesterday night, my siblings had to keep asking me what had happened to me in the space of going upstairs to charge my phone and coming back downstairs to eat dinner. I kept on telling them nothing was wrong when in fact, my attitude was saying otherwise.
I bring you words of encouragement after months of battling discouragement myself!
I know I owe you an explanation of where I went. A lot of things happened which I might not be able to share now but instead, I’ll apologize. I’m sorry. If you subscribed to my newsletter then you should have gotten my apology note. If you’re not, do well to subscribe now. I’ll share more stuff and it might be limited to my email list or they get to read it first.
Do you know how to deal with disappointment? Have you ever experienced disappointment? Would it be weird if I said disappointment is a normal thing to experience as long as there are expectations? If there’s one thing that is certain that a person would experience before death no matter how good life is to the person, I’ll say it’s disappointment. This could happen in several ways and at different phases of a person’s life.
Do you know that to change your life, you also need to change your environment?
This post is inspired by the fact that many people are willing to have a better life. In fairness to them, they try so hard but all their efforts are frustrated. They end up feeling like losers. Nobody deserves to feel that way. Not even when you are trying. What then could be the problem? Could they be doing something wrong?
This morning I woke up mumbling positive words to myself. It could be as a result of too much sleep or a not so good dream but it felt like a good way to wake up. So I thought, why not write about positive affirmations.
Everybody looks happy but not everybody is happy genuinely. This is not because they don’t feel like being happy. I mean, everyone wants to be happy but some don’t know that they are deliberately blocking happiness from getting into their lives. They are carrying about burden in their mind and heads so much that they have forgotten how to be happy.
