Do you know that there are valuable lessons heartbreak can teach you? 

I opened my Twitter app and it was the gist of heartbreak that was flying around. Twitter is the only app that things you least expect will not only trend, but also get people talking and sharing their experiences. I read a lot of heartbreaking stories till I could no longer read. While some were painful so much that I could feel the pain through my phone, some were just weirdly funny. You’ll be surprised at things people can do for love.

While reading some threads, I saw comments like ‘I can relate’ and it was quite alarming that many people could relate. Heartbreaks can be very messy and painful but still, lessons can be learned. I’ll be sharing with you 4 valuable lessons heartbreak can teach you. 

1. Life goes on

Yes, people, life goes on!

‘I can’t do life without you baby’ ‘Things won’t be fine if you are not here,’ I’m sure those lines are very familiar but look at you boo. You are doing just fine. You are doing life without that baby and No, things are just fine. 

Before heartbreak, you might feel like you won’t be able to do life without your ex-partner but I’m sure you know better now. Nothing will pause much more stop because you are heartbroken. At this point, it’ll feel like things are even moving faster. Heartbreak will teach you that with or without a person, life will continue.

2. Love is not enough

Do you still belong to the school of thought that love is all you need to make that relationship work? If you ask me or someone who has been rejected or heartbroken, we’ll tell you that love is not enough to keep a relationship.

Ever heard people say ‘we love ourselves so much but still it didn’t work out,’ or ‘We love ourselves but we can’t just settle our differences? A heartbreak will practically throw you out of your dreamy zone and familiarize you with reality.

Read: 5 Effective Ways To Deal With Disappointment 

3. It’s not always your fault

I know how hard it can be when someone you love chooses to no longer love you. It can be devastating. It can hurt so bad that it’ll make you do unimaginable things or even doubt your ability to love. But here’s something I want you to know.

Sometimes another person’s decision to not be with you or continue to love you is not always correlated to you. It is sometimes about them. It’s not your fault that they do not have the emotional capacity to be consistent in love especially in the sense of partnership. Others have emotional baggage that prevents them from being in a healthy relationship. And sometimes, while unfortunate, you end up being the collateral damage.

If it’s your fault, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

4. You can love again even after heartbreak

It takes a strong heart to love after a heartbreak. Being heartbroken is one of the hardest things to go through in life. It can hurt for months or even years, and loving again can be difficult. The pain from the past that we harbor keeps stopping us from creating a new future.

Here’s a reminder that you can love again after going through heartbreak. It’s not the easiest but the only way to completely move on is to let love back into your life again (when you’re ready).

Heartbreaks hurt and they are painful but each one is unique to itself. Going through heartbreak and coming out on the other side teaches us many valuable lessons but that does not mean you are prepared for everything that is still to come. I won’t guarantee that the next person you’ll love won’t break your heart but one thing I’m sure of is that you’ll never lose your ability to love again. Wondering how to find love again after heartbreak? Click here

I hope that these lessons will encourage you to learn to value the most important relationship you have, and that is with yourself. A heartbreak shouldn’t stop you from loving yourself and looking after yourself neither should it stop you from trying again.

Are there lessons that you’ve learned in the course of your heartbreak? Do well to share some with me in the comment section. Also, if this post resonates with you or you have people who you think will need to read this, share this post with them.

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With love, 

Opeyemi Omidiji